Yes, Christianity is Hard, and That’s a Good Thing

Tell me if this sounds tempting: A “simple faith” that involves you, Jesus, and the Bible. No church. No dogma. No traditions. Just believe and be saved.

For many Christians, faith is there to make them feel better. They read a pleasant Bible verse or listen to a pastor speak about how Jesus loves us and if you accept him, you’re saved. You’d be hard pressed to hear anyone preaching from the pulpit in any Christian church about what Christ said about divorce and remarriage, or the narrow road and the seemingly few who are saved.

No, for many, Christianity is little more than a platitude you see pop up on Facebook, something to make you smile and get the warm fuzzies, but little more.

They believe, but maybe they don’t go to church, don’t pray, don’t forgive, and in some cases, don’t stop sinning.

It’s tempting to go with that, but is that the way it’s supposed to be and is it the best for our spiritual growth?

It’s normal for us to want things to be easy. We want instant gratification. But, when you read the gospels, especially what Jesus had to say about being his follower, it’s easy to see he’s calling for us to embrace something more difficult and more meaningful.

Yes, Christianity is hard, and that’s a good thing. Here’s why.

Pick Up Your Cross

In Luke 9:23, Jesus says,

Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their crosses daily and follow me.

On the surface, that sounds somewhat benign and poetic, but it was anything but to the people Jesus was speaking to. People in that time understood exactly what Jesus meant by taking up your cross.

The cross was a Roman instrument of death, shame, and torture. People in Jesus’ time saw executions by crucifixion regularly. They knew what the journey of the cross meant. Carrying this heavy wooden beam and being beaten over a long distance eventually led to your death.

In this passage, Jesus is telling the people (and us) that following him isn’t easy. You’re most likely going to suffer. You’llbe mocked and hated. You’ll be tempted. You’ll fall. You’ll struggle.

That’s the way of the cross.

Why Following is Hard

To be a disciple of Christ means denying yourself, surrendering yourself, serving others when you want to be served, forgiving when you don’t want to forgive, obeying even when it costs you, and accepting the trials that come with living in this fallen world.

Our culture often mocks or misrepresents the Christian faith. Many Christians still face ridicule and persecution in some countries, and the Catholic church gets a lot of shade (some deserved) thrown their way.

If you look at the lives of the early believers and the saints, you’ll see people who suffered greatly for their faith, many to the point of imprisonment or execution. Right off the bat, Christianity proved to be a difficult religion to follow if you wanted an easy life.

Difficult Things Are Good

When I moved to my current town about 20 years ago, I gained a lot of weight. I had a terrible diet, a desk job, and little to no exercise. I knew I had to do something, but losing weight, eating better, and getting into shape was an uphill battle that I didn’t want to take.

But I did. I committed to eating healthier, lowering my calories, and exercising every day. I lost the weight and kept it off. Was it hard? Yes, but it was worth it.

Doing difficult things refines us. Struggles purify our character and draw us closer to God. It separates shallow faith from a deep commitment — the commitment that Christ is asking us to undertake when he tells us to pick up our crosses.

Difficulties can give true meaning to life.

There are thousands of examples of this, but one I like to cite is that of Viktor Frakl. Frankl is known for many things, but the one I want to focus on is his best-selling book Man’s Search for Meaning, which details his experience in Nazi concentration camps.

After his experiences, Frankl went on to become a neurologist and psychologist. His difficulty — his suffering — made him a better person.

As mentioned, there are countless stories like this, some Christian, others not, but the point is that struggles can shape us and make us better people. I’d argue that everything worthwhile in life is difficult.

Getting a degree is difficult. Marriage is difficult. Raising kids is difficult. Staying healthy is difficult.

If you want to grow in your faith and draw closer to Jesus, you have to embrace the struggle and the difficulty that comes with it.

Christianity goes against human nature. We’re told to forgive our enemies and do good to those who hate us. We’re calledto endure ridicule and even death for the faith.

A true follower of Christ is one who’s willing to sacrifice themselves, to deny themselves, and that’s hard, especially in today’s world.

The difficulty of following Jesus isn’t a flaw — it’s a feature. The world sells you comfort and an easy life, and mostpeople are content to embrace that. But fulfillment and growth don’t come when things are easy; they come when things are hard.

My Hardships

If you’re like me, you might read a book or watch YouTube videos on topics like this and think, “That’s easy for you to say, you’re not me.”

It’s true. I’m not you, and the people in the videos and books aren’t me. I’ve learned that people are good at masking what’s happening in their lives. It’s easy to look at some people and think they’ve got it all together when, in reality, they’re suffering tremendously under the surface.

I’m sure people think that of me. I put on a good face when I’m out, but at home, in church, I’m a wreck. I feel like a walking mortal sin.

I suspect that most of us are in the same boat. 

It would be so easy to give up. Just like it would be so easy to go back to my old habits and gain my weight back, or stop believing and go back to a life of sin. But that’s not what’s best for me.

The Rewards are Worth It

Finally, while Jesus said the road wouldn’t be easy, he did say it would be worth it. In Matthew 16:25 he says,

For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.

That’s the promise of the gospel: you give up your life, and in return, you receive a better one — eternal life, full of joy, peace, and the presence of God.

If you’re struggling with the fait (I do everyday), take heart. You’re not doing it wrong — you’re probably doing it right. Every struggle you overcome or manage, brings you closer to Jesus. He took up his cross, walked the road, and died to give us the example.

Yes, Christianity is hard, and that’s a good thing.